In a dating and courtship relationship, I would not have you spend five minutes with someone who belittles you, one who is constantly critical of you, one who is cruel at your expense and may even call it humor. Life is tough enough without the person who is supposed to love you leading the assault on your self-esteem, your sense of dignity, your confidence, and your joy. In this person’s care, you deserve to feel physically safe and emotionally secure. — Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, “How Do I Love Thee?” BYU Devotional, Feb. 15, 2000
Be the kind of person you want to marry. — Larry Johnson, Cypress Institute Dir., 1994
Do not expect perfection in your choice of a mate. Do not be so particular that you overlook (his or) her most important qualities of having a strong testimony, living the principles of the gospel, (and) loving home. . . .
And one good yardstick as to whether a person might be the right one for you is this: in (his or) her presence, do you think your noblest thoughts, do you aspire to your finest deeds, do you wish you were better than you are? — President Ezra Taft Benson, “To the Single Adult Brethren of the Church,” Ensign, May 1988, p. 53