When one puts business or pleasure above his home, he that moment starts on the downgrade to soul-weakness. When the club becomes more attractive to any man than his home, it is time for him to confess in bitter shame that he has failed to measure up to the supreme opportunity of his life and flunked in the final test of true manhood. No other success can compensate for failure in the home. The poorest shack in which love prevails over a united family is of greater value to God and future humanity than any other riches. In such a home God can work miracles and will work miracles.
Pure hearts in a pure home are always in whispering distance of heaven. – President David O. McKay, General Conference, April 1964, Conference Report, p. 5
I find some of our brethren who are engaged in some leadership position justify their neglect of their family because they say that they are engaged in the Lord’s work. I say to them, “My dear brother, do you realize that the most important part of the Lord’s work that you will do is the work that you do within the walls of your own home?” That is the most important work of the Lord. Don’t get your sense of values mixed up. – President Harold B. Lee, BYU Speeches, April 19, 1961, p. 5
Elder Marvin J. Ashton spoke of the significance of Joseph Smith’s home. He says, “After Joseph Smith had suffered the anguish and the excitement of one of the greatest visions in the history of all mankind, he tells us in his own words, ‘I went home.’ He turned to his home and family for strength and for sharing. Past experiences must have taught him that home is where problems can be solved and confidences and concerns shared. Here he could relate his true feelings without fear or ridicule.” (Marvin J. Ashton, “I Went Home,” 4 April 1980) — Elaine Jack, “The Door of Home,” October 1992
The Savior emphatically emphasized the home as a special setting for the learning of gospel doctrine and principles. Please turn to 3 Nephi, chapter 17. You will recall that in chapter 17 the Savior was teaching the people in the Land of Bountiful near the temple. Beginning in verse 1:
“Behold, now it came to pass that when Jesus had spoken these words he looked round about again on the multitude, and he said unto them: Behold, my time is at hand. I perceive that ye are weak, that ye cannot understand all my words which I am commanded of the Father to speak unto you at this time.
“Therefore, go ye unto your homes, and ponder upon the things which I have said, and ask of the Father, in my name, that ye may understand, and prepare your minds for the morrow, and I come unto you again.” (3 Nephi 17:1-3)
What an instructive formula: (1) go to your home, (2) ponder upon the things that have been said, (3) ask of the Father in Christ’s name that you will understand, and (4) prepare your mind for additional instruction. Even though the most influential and powerful and effective teacher who ever lived was in their midst and instructing these people, yet He, Jesus Christ, recognized that true understanding would come in the home. I find it powerful and significant that Christ emphasized the setting of the home as the place for understanding the doctrines of the gospel. — Elder David A. Bednar, Education Week BYU-I, June 28, 2003
As President David O. McKay said, “No other success can compensate for failure in the home.” (General Conference, April 4, 1964.)
That, of course, was echoed by President Harold B. Lee who said, “the greatest of the Lord’s work you brethren will ever do as fathers will be within the walls of your own home.” (General Conference, April 7, 1973)
Service in the Church and in our families is essential. Together, they go hand-in-hand. With proper planning and organization there is time for both in our lives. As we attend to our family and Church responsibilities, we should follow the Savior – He who set the example. –– The Church News, March 21, 1992, p. 16