Quotes on Husbands

See also: Peter 3:1

Your leadership of the family is your most important sacred responsibility.  The family is the most important unit in time and in eternity and, as such, transcends every other interest in life. . . .

Effective family leadership, brethren, requires both quantity and quality time.  The teaching and governance of the family must not be left to your wife alone, to society, to school, or even the Church.

A man who holds the priesthood accepts his wife as a partner in the leadership of the home and family with full knowledge of and full participation in all decisions relating thereto.  Of necessity there must be in the Church and in the home a presiding officer (see D&C 107:21).  By divine appointment, the responsibility to preside in the home rests upon the priesthood holder (see Moses 4:22).  The Lord intended that the wife be a helpmeet for man (meet means equal) – that is, a companion equal and necessary in full partnership. Presiding in righteousness necessitates a shared responsibility between husband and wife; together you act with knowledge and participation in all family matters.  For a man to operate independent of or without regard to the feelings and counsel of his wife in governing the family is to exercise unrighteous dominion. — President Howard W. Hunter, “Being a Righteous Husband and Father,” General Conference, October 1994

I have a question about the word rule.  It gives the wrong impression.  I would prefer to use the word preside because that’s what he does.  A righteous husband presides over his wife and family. — President Spencer W. Kimball, “The Blessings and Responsibilities of Womanhood,” Ensign, March 1976, p. 72

Peter 3:1, JST: “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conduct of the wives; . . .”

It is the duty of a husband to love, cherish, and nourish his wife, and cleave unto her and none else.  He ought to honor her as himself, and he ought to regard her feelings with tenderness, for she is his flesh and his bone, designed to be an help unto him, both in temporal and spiritual things, one into whose bosom he can pour all his complaints without reserve, who is willing (being designed) to take part of his burden, to soothe and encourage his feelings by her gentle voice.

It is the place of the man to stand at the head of his family and be lord of his own house, not to rule over his wife as a tyrant, neither as one who is fearful or jealous that his wife will get out of her place and prevent him from exercising his authority.  It is his duty to be a man of God – for a man of God is a man of wisdom – ready at all times to obtain from the scriptures, the revelations, and from on high, such instructions as are necessary for the edification and salvation of his household.

And on the other hand, it is the duty of the wife to be in subjection to her husband at all times, not as a servant, neither as one who fears a tyrant or a master, but as one who in meekness and the love of God regards the laws and institutions of heaven [and] looks up to her husband for instruction, edification, and comfort. — Joseph Smith, Elders’ Journal, August 1838, pp. 61-62

A man who holds the priesthood accepts his wife as a partner in the leadership of the home and family with full knowledge of and full participation in all decisions relating thereto.  Of necessity there must be in the Church and in the home a presiding officer (see D&C 107:21).  By divine appointment, the responsibility to preside in the home rests upon the [Ensign, 51] priesthood holder (see Moses 4:22).  The Lord intended that the wife be a helpmeet for man (meet means equal) – that is, a companion equal and necessary in full partnership. Presiding in righteousness necessitates a shared responsibility between husband and wife; together you act with knowledge and participation in all family matters. For a man to operate independently of or without regard to the feelings and counsel of his wife in governing the family is to exercise unrighteous dominion. — President Howard W. Hunter,  Ensign, November 1994, pp. 50–51

The prophet [Howard W. Hunter] said priesthood holders have the responsibility, unless disabled, to provide temporal support for their wives and children, and should not shift the responsibility, even to the wife.

“We urge you to do all in your power to allow your wife to remain in the home, caring for the children while you provide for your family as best you can.  We further reemphasize that men who abandon their family and fail to meet their responsibility to care for those they have fathered may find their eligibility for a temple recommend and their standing in the Church in jeopardy.  In cases of divorce or separation, men must demonstrate that they are meeting family support payments mandated by law and obligated by the principles of the Church in order to qualify for the blessings of the Lord.” — President Howard W. Hunter, General Conference Priesthood Session, October 1, 1994

Sustain your husband.  Both husband and wife should appreciate that, “Woman was taken out of man; not out of his feet to be trampled underfoot, but out of his side to be equal to him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.”  Be patient, be tender, be long-suffering, be considerate, be understanding, be your best self as you sustain your husband, remembering that children often outgrow their need for affection, but husbands never do. — President Thomas S. Monson, Church News, March 21, 1992, p. 3

It is not my general practice to counsel the sisters to disobey their husbands, but my counsel is – obey your husbands; and I am sanguine and most emphatic on that subject.  But I never counseled a woman to follow her husband to the devil.  If a man is determined to expose the lives of his friends, let that man go to the devil and to destruction alone. — Brigham Young, Journal of Discourses, 1:77

Now let me say to the First Presidency, to the Apostles, to all the Bishops in Israel, and to every quorum, and especially to those who are presiding officers, set that example before your wives and your children, before your neighbors and this people, that you can say: “Follow me, as I follow Christ.”  When we do this, all is right, and our consciences are clear. . . .

Let the husband and father learn to bend his will to the will of his God, and then instruct his wives and children in this lesson of self-government by his example as well as by precept. Discourses of Brigham Young, 198

 The Prophet Joseph Smith taught wives that they should treat their husbands “with mildness and affection.  When a man is borne down with trouble, when he is perplexed with care and difficulty, if he can meet a smile instead of an argument or a murmur – if he can meet with mildness, it will calm down his soul and soothe his feelings” (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, sel. Joseph Fielding Smith [1976], 228).

The Prophet taught husbands, “It is the duty of a husband to love, cherish, and nourish his wife, and cleave unto her and none else; he ought to honor her as himself, and he ought to regard her feelings with tenderness” (Elders’ Journal, Aug. 1838, 61). — Gospel Doctrine Sunday School Lesson Manual, Lesson 10, 2013