Quotes on Judge Not

As we get better and better at forging unity, we will think of a scripture when we hear that question:  “And now, my brethren, seeing that ye know the light by which ye may judge, which light is the light of Christ, see that ye do not judge wrongfully; for with that same judgment which ye judge ye shall also be judged.”

Realizing that you see others in an imperfect light will make you likely to be a little more generous in what you say.  In addition to that scripture, you might remember your mother saying – mine did – ”If you can’t say anything good about a person, don’t say anything at all.”

I can promise you a feeling of peace and joy when you speak generously of others in the Light of Christ.  — President Henry B. Eyring, “Our Hearts Knit as One,” Ensign, November 2008, p. 70

Imperfect people are, in fact, called by our perfect Lord to assist in His work.  The Lord declared to certain associates of Joseph Smith that He knew that they had observed Joseph’s minor imperfections.  Even so, the Lord then testified that the revelations given through the Prophet were true!  (See D&C 67:5, 9.)

Unsurprisingly, therefore, we do notice each other’s weaknesses.  But we should not celebrate them.  Let us be grateful for the small strides that we and others make, rather than rejoice in the shortfalls.  And when mistakes occur, let them become instructive, not destructive. — Elder Neal A. Maxwell, “A Brother Offended,” Ensign, May 1982, p. 37

Why did the Lord give the commandment? “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.”  (Exodus 20:16) 

He gave it because of the subtle methods of the adversary in his effort to divide and tear asunder the love and the unity of the Lord’s people!  To bear false witness may not appear to be a very serious offense, but its results are far-reaching and cruel, hence, the use made of it by the instigator of evil.  The Lord warns us against this evil practice. Bearing false witness, talebearing, slander, gossip, scandal, fault-finding, backbiting, and evil speaking are in the same category of evil practice and are some of the means employed by Satan to disunite us as a people and destroy brotherly love, kindness, and helpfulness toward one another. — Elder George F. Richards, Conference Report, April 1947

If we are not most careful with our thoughts and speech, the words we use will use us.  Language has its own ethics, and one who communicates truth is like a bright light in the darkness.  We must nurture language like that.  — Elder Ted E. Brewerton, “Profanity and Swearing,” Ensign, May 1983, p.72

If there be trouble existing between me and anybody else, I would meet them half way, yes, I would meet them three quarters or even all of the way.  I would feel like yielding; I would say, I do not want to quarrel, I want to be a Saint.  I have set out for purity, virtue, brotherhood, and for obedience to the laws of God on earth, and for thrones and principalities and dominions in the eternal worlds, and I will not allow such paltry affairs to interfere with my prospects.  I am for life, eternal lives and eternal exaltations in the kingdom of God. Teachings of Presidents of the Church: John Taylor, p. 26

Have you ever noticed that anybody driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone going faster than you is a maniac?   — George Carlin

Now, brothers and sisters, what the Savior meant [Matt.7:1-2] was that you and I, in our capacity as individuals, as members, outside of any official duty imposed upon us, should not sit in judgment upon one another.  And yet we do it, and sometimes we say things about one another that we are not justified in saying. . . . It is not our province as members of the Church, to sit in judgment upon one another and call bad names when we reflect upon the acts of people.  We have no right, even if we are in official capacity, to form a one-sided judgment.  There are two sides to every such question, if not more, always; and we should hear both. . . . Hear the other side before you begin to find fault, and pass judgment.  Do not let us pass judgment upon our fellow creatures, our brothers and sisters, or even people in the world. — Elder Charles W. Penrose, Conference Report, October 22, 1916

One of the greatest indicators of our own spiritual maturity is revealed in how we respond to the weaknesses, the inexperience, and the potentially offensive actions of others.  A thing, an event, or an expression may be offensive, but you and I can choose not to be offended – and to say with Pahoran, “it mattereth not.”   — Elder David A. Bednar, “And Nothing Shall Offend Them,” Ensign, November 2006, p. 91

We see the need for forgiveness in the homes of the people, where tiny molehills of misunderstanding are fanned into mountains of argument.  We see it among neighbors, where insignificant differences lead to undying bitterness.  We see it in business associates who quarrel and refuse to compromise and forgive when, in most instances, if there were a willingness to sit down together and speak quietly one to another, the matter could be resolved to the blessing of all.  Rather, they spend their days nurturing grudges and planning retribution. . . . 

“. . . There is no peace in reflecting on the pain of old wounds.  There is peace only in repentance and forgiveness.  This is the sweet peace of the Christ, who said, “blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God (Matt. 5:9).” — President Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign, June 1991, pp. 2, 5

We all have our weaknesses and failings.  Sometimes the husband sees a failing in his wife, and he upbraids her with it.  Sometimes the wife feels that her husband has not done just the right thing, and she upbraids him.  What good does it do?  Is not forgiveness better?  Is not charity better?  Is not love better?  Isn’t it better not to speak of faults, not to magnify weaknesses by iterating and reiterating them?  Isn’t that better?  and will not the union that has been cemented between you and the birth of children and by the bond of the new and everlasting covenant, be more secure when you forget to mention weaknesses and faults one of another?  Is it not better to drop them and say nothing about them – bury them and speak only of the good that you know and feel, one for another, and thus bury each other’s faults and not magnify them; isn’t that better?” — President Joseph F. Smith, “Sermon on Home Government,” Millennial Star, 25 January 1912, pp. 49-50

If there be any who nurture in their hearts the poisonous brew of enmity toward another, I plead with you to ask the Lord for strength to forgive.  This expression of desire will be of the very substance of your repentance.  It may not be easy, and it may not come quickly.  But if you will seek it with sincerity and cultivate it, it will come. . . . There will come into your heart a peace otherwise unattainable. — President Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign, June 1991, p. 5

If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. — Elder Marvin J. Ashton, Ensign, May 1992